originally victoria — unfiltered blog

You would think by now I would have already wrote about being a Women of God, but I just haven’t felt that release yet. As days, weeks, and months go by I start to recognize I truly could not do life without my sisters. I love my brothers don’t get me wrong, but it’s something about a girl to girl that is comfort. Society has muzzled the mouths of women and I have had enoughhhh you hear me?! ENUFFF!!

Proverbs 31 is often quoted at weddings or women’s conferences, but it’s not just for married women or moms—it’s for us, right here in our young adult years. It’s about becoming the kind of woman who knows her worth, who doesn’t settle, and who lives with a strength that comes from God, not from chasing what the world calls success.

The word virtuous in Hebrew means strength, valor, and courage. A proverbs 31 woman is not timid or fragile—she’s strong in spirit. For us, that strength looks like saying no to the party culture when it’s easier to blend in. It looks like walking away from a situationship that doesn’t honor God even if it hurts. It looks like trusting God when post-grad life feels uncertain and everyone else seems like they have their “dream job” already. It looks like standing firm in prayer even when the enemy whispers lies about your worth. It looks like rebuking fear and anxiety with the truth of God’s Word instead of letting them control you. It looks like interceding for your family’s salvation when you’ve seen no change for years. It looks like putting on the armor of God daily and resisting temptations that try to chip away at your faith. Proverbs 31:25 says, “she is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Strength doesn’t mean having it all figured out—it means leaning on God when you don’t.

knowing your identity and your place at the table

In college, at work, or even in church, it’s easy to feel like you don’t measure up. Maybe you’ve scrolled through instagram and wondered why your life doesn’t look like hers. Maybe you’ve felt overlooked in relationships or opportunities. But here’s the truth: as a daughter of the most high God, you already have a seat at the table. You don’t have to beg for attention or prove your worth—you belong because of Jesus. Think of a princess walking into a room—she doesn’t shrink back or try to compete. She knows who her Father is. Ephesians 2:6 says God has “raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms.” You don’t have to earn your chair—it’s already yours. In real life, this might look like turning down a toxic relationship even though you’re tired of being single. It might look like refusing to compare your timeline to everyone else’s because you trust God’s timing. It’s also choosing to celebrate another girl’s engagement, new job, or big breakthrough without feeling threatened—because your portion is secure. When you know who you are, you carry yourself differently. You don’t have to post for validation or dress to get attention—you honor God and yourself in the way you live. You don’t have to settle for gossip when you can be the voice of encouragement in your friend group. Proverbs 31:30 reminds us, “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Your value isn’t in your looks, your follower count, or your achievements—it’s in your identity as His daughter.

OCCUPY TILL I COME
In Luke 19:13, Jesus gave a clear instruction in a parable: “occupy till I come.” that wasn’t about passively waiting—it was about actively stewarding. To “occupy” means to be faithful, intentional, and fruitful with what God has placed in your hands. It points directly to identity, position, and assignment.

• Identity: before you can truly occupy, you have to know who you are. You’re not ordinary—you’re a child of the most high (romans 8:16). When you forget that, insecurity and comparison creep in. But when you know your identity, you move boldly, knowing you’re not just waiting as a bystander—you’re an heir of the kingdom.
  • Noah and his family became the starting point of a renewed creation, a second chance for humankind. In that sense, every nation, tribe, and people trace their story back to that place of covenant and preservation. God preserved a remnant, and that preservation is part of our testimony too—we are here because of God’s faithfulness.
  • But beyond heritage by bloodline, there is also spiritual heritage. Each of us, as children of God, resonate with someone in Scripture. Their stories are not just ancient records but mirrors for our own journeys. Some of us carry the quiet persistence of Ruth, the courage of Esther, the leadership of Deborah, or the prophetic boldness of Miriam. These are not just characters—they are anointings, patterns of grace, that continue through God’s people today.
    • The Esther Anointing: Boldness to step into destiny “for such a time as this,” willing to risk comfort for kingdom purpose.
    • The Ruth Anointing: Loyalty, devotion, and the humility to follow faithfully into unfamiliar territory, trusting God’s providence.
    • The Deborah Anointing: Wisdom and leadership in times of battle, a voice of clarity and courage when others hesitate.
    • The Miriam Anointing: Prophetic worship and intercession, guiding others into freedom through song, dance, and declaration.
  • Each testimony carries shades of these anointings. Our lives are like threads woven into the same story that began in Genesis, carried through the Ark, through the wilderness, through exile, and into the church. So when we look at our lives today, part of our testimony is realizing: we are living echoes of the Bible. God has written His story through people before us, and now He continues writing it through us.
• Position: the nobleman gave his servants a position of trust. In the same way, God has placed you exactly where you are—your school, your friend group, your workplace—on purpose. None of it is random. When you embrace your position, you stop wishing you were somewhere else and start asking, “Lord, how do you want me to occupy here?”
• Assignment: Identity tells you who you are, position tells you where you are, and assignment tells you what to do. Occupying isn’t about doing everything—it’s about doing what God gave you. Multiplying it is the goal.

Waiting doesn’t look like sitting still—it looks like stewarding. It looks like using your gifts, working your field, and being faithful in small things. When you occupy well, you’re preparing for the King’s return.

Waiting is one of the hardest things in your late teens and twenties. Waiting for the right guy. Waiting for the right job. Waiting for clarity about your future. Culture says, “don’t wait—take what you can get now.” But waiting is a discipline of trust. Ruth didn’t chase after Boaz—she was faithful in the fields, and God brought him at the right time. Waiting doesn’t mean you sit still—it means you grow, you serve, you build, and you prepare for the things God has for you. Settling for less might feel easier, but it only leads to regret. Settling is choosing a relationship that doesn’t honor God just because you’re lonely. It’s saying yes to an opportunity that compromises your values just because you’re afraid another won’t come. But a Proverbs 31 woman knows her value. Psalm 84:11 promises, “no good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” If it’s not from Him, it’s not good enough for you.

Being a virtuous woman in today’s world doesn’t always look traditional. It might look like a college student starting a prayer group in her dorm. It might look like a young professional building her career with integrity. It might look like choosing to stay home on a Friday night to rest and spend time with God instead of following the crowd. The point isn’t to fit a mold—it’s to let the fear of the Lord guide your decisions, whatever season you’re in.

Proverbs 31 is not an unreachable fairytale—it’s a call to identity. It’s God saying, “Daughter, I’ve called you higher. I’ve placed strength in you, wisdom in you, and purpose in you.” Out of His great love, He doesn’t leave you to figure it out on your own—He walks with you, guiding you every step. This season of young adulthood is not about scrambling to figure it all out—it’s about building the foundation of who you are in Christ. So don’t rush. Don’t settle. Rest in the love of the Father, walk in your worth, carry yourself like the daughter of a King, and trust that His timing—rooted in His perfect love—is always better than your own.